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Post by Omo Oba of the Source on Dec 10, 2015 8:27:31 GMT
You appear anti-polygamist - no offense. Marriage becoming polygamic is as a result of the absorption of western societal standards/religion. Traditional African society was accepting of polygamy and it worked on all levels till women thought white man's style was ultimate and men had to resort to cheating till they get caught or impregnate the other woman and they become bold with it. In fact, polygamy showed the level of a man's wealth/inflience in the previous generations. And women were accepting of their husbands getting other wives because it adds to their level of societal importance and also only a 'wicked' woman in Yoruba soceity would prevent her man from taking more wives if he so wishes. But you're not answering my questions though....... HOW does a man find his second wife? Yes, I'm anti-polygamist. In my relationship, the man belongs to me emotionally, sexually, economically, etc. I like a one man- one woman playing field, supported by a healthy dose of jealous emotion. A lot of the world's traditions needs to be scrapped, let's the honest. In the Yoruba culture, polygamy came about as an effect of war......less number of male survival, more women to be married off. Nowadays, we don't have that problem. So it's okay for a man to have multiple wives, but not okay for a woman to have multiple husbands? Is the husband not wicked also? Aunty Ileke Polygamy in Yoruba land is not as a result of war - that your point there is wrong ma. Polygamy in Yoruba culture has been a permanent instution regardless of peace or war times. A man finds his wives in various ways, even the first wife helps with and supports the man in this venture. There are cultures in Africa where it is the social norm for women to have multiple husbands. So, I do not think it is much of a big deal if all parties involved are ok with either polygamy or polyandry.
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Post by Her Highness on Dec 10, 2015 14:27:48 GMT
But you're not answering my questions though....... HOW does a man find his second wife? Yes, I'm anti-polygamist. In my relationship, the man belongs to me emotionally, sexually, economically, etc. I like a one man- one woman playing field, supported by a healthy dose of jealous emotion. A lot of the world's traditions needs to be scrapped, let's the honest. In the Yoruba culture, polygamy came about as an effect of war......less number of male survival, more women to be married off. Nowadays, we don't have that problem. So it's okay for a man to have multiple wives, but not okay for a woman to have multiple husbands? Is the husband not wicked also? Aunty Ileke Polygamy in Yoruba land is not as a result of war - that your point there is wrong ma. Polygamy in Yoruba culture has been a permanent instution regardless of peace or war times. A man finds his wives in various ways, even the first wife helps with and supports the man in this venture. There are cultures in Africa where it is the social norm for women to have multiple husbands. So, I do not think it is much of a big deal if all parties involved are ok with either polygamy or polyandry. E kaaro o Really, can you provide proof that polygamy was part of our culture before our numerous intratribal wars? So you're telling me that if I decide to have multiple husbands, Nigerians no go talk? @oga mi To quote someone, use the "@" tage before their username. No space.
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Post by Shymmex on Dec 10, 2015 23:14:38 GMT
Obviously. My kids would always be the priority. They would be more important than me as well. Honestly, I'm surprised. I'm actually finding it hard to believe. I've seen marriages where women prioritize their babies/kids over their husband, it never ends well. However, why would anyone want to compete with the kids for affection? They deserve it. And they're still finding their feet in the world, so they need all the affection and care.
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